Helping with rough behavior

Babies are lovely. They cuddle, they snuggle, they gaze at you adoringly. They squeal with delight at little things like rolling a ball, seeing themselves in a mirror, or parental homecoming. Then something happens. They grow impatient with just rolling the ball, they...

Coming Home: Strategies for a calm re-entry

School days are getting longer, families are frequently paying the price. Six year olds come home from school completely wiped, having spent all of their ability to cope socially, physically, intellectually and emotionally, at school. That leaves caregivers and...

Toddler and “NO”

One of the most frequent questions we get at our toddler workshops is, “how can I stop saying ‘no’ all the time?” Caregivers worry that toddlers won’t learn how to be a part of the world without basic limits, but get weary of repeating...

Adolescents need family

In training to be a therapist, I heard a lot about adolescence being closely related to toddlerhood. They both involve a lot of changes that aren’t easy to mediate, and they focus on the dance of separation and connection. Traditional thinking in our society...

Forgiving Ourselves

Many years ago I killed our cat. I was hugely pregnant, moody, congested and sleep deprived- and we added Honey, stray cat from work, to our family. One night, in between kicks from Carter, Honey was harassing me. Not content to snuggle next to me and purr, she...